What is it lately with everyone asking you for something?

I shop at a store, the cashier asks me if I want to donate a $1 for such and such cause. I say “No”, they frown and say “it’s only a $1”. So I politely say “not this time thanks”. But by the 5th store I enter and someone says it’s only a dollar I’m frustrated and forget about my politeness and straight out say: “a dollar here, a dollar there, it all adds up, and you ask me for a dollar each time I grocery shop Jeez!” Of course then they frown at you even more… And it’s not that I don’t want to donate because I do, every year I donate to kiddo’s school and to a few causes I believe in. But I don’t like to feel pressured into doing something I don’t want to do, don’t think anyone does really.

So I move on from the store encounters and now I’m in my car singing to my song on the radio, waiting at the traffic light, there’s the same old guy who wants my spare change and who is there every single day… I usually just look the other way, but I almost feel like saying “Dude, I gave you some change I had the other day, but I don’t work hard all day to give you what I have in my wallet everyday that I go by here, you’d think you’d recognize my face and my SUV by now…” but I just keep quiet and ignore…

To then sit at my desk and go through my mail to find invitations to I’m having a Tupperware party, jewelry party and whatever you name it party. Ugh more useless stuff, no thank you, if you really want to have some girl time and include me, can’t we do a dinner or a happy hr and don’t try to pressure me into buying anything I don’t need or want, or waste my team listening to someone talking about their wonderful products just so you can get a free something or other? No thanks

So now I’m on my Facebook, all of a sudden “friends” are starting to want to get you to buy something, or help them promote something, or do something to help them out with what they are doing at work or a company they volunteer with… Hmmm believe me if I ignore it once, and twice there is no need to badger me with it again, if I didn’t answer the 1st time it’s probably because I’m not the least bit interested.

More and more comes up everyday, and more and more I think about how I always help where I can, I’ve changed my schedule around to accommodate other people, some who I don’t even think appreciate it, so my conclusion is that what is left of the year and moving forward my resolution is to be more selfish. Worry more about me and not so much of the others… I know it sounds bad, but there comes a time in your life where you realize that life isn’t going to last forever, that people come and go, that friendships change, that work is not the most important thing, that your kiddos will love you dearly and you don’t need to buy them everything they want, that your kiddos grow up so fast that before you know it they are off to college and soon you might even be a grandma…

Life is short, enjoy it, take care of yourself because no one else will do that for you, and do things that make you happy.  Along the way, donate to the causes that you feel are important to you, take care of your responsibilities but ask for help and be willing to accept help from those who care about you. Watch your kids grow, enjoy them, enjoy your family and your friends… But always, always care about your needs too, not everyone elses first.